Most of us have this common fear of facing conflicts. We would rather sweep it aside, thinking that preserving the peace is more important than talking about what was creating the tension in our relationships. However, these unresolved conflicts would one day blow out of proportions caused by the tiniest trigger. And since we are uncertain when the plug will be pulled from our lives, we can either choose to have superficial relationships that avoid resolving conflicts at all costs, or have authentic conversations that could potentially strengthen the relationships to greater heights, or realised that we do not need to further invest our energies on relationships that could not withstand confrontations.
Most of us choose which side of us to present to different people: our parents, co-workers, partners, children, friends, clients and others. Hence, different people would only know us as a combination of certain personalities, much like the popular cubic toy we were playing not too long ago. While there are many combinations of us that showed up to different people, at the core of it, we are still the same person. We are just different on various occasions and to various people whom we feel safe to be ourselves in a certain way.
I was on my morning walk one day and just mindfully observing everything that’s around me. I noticed that every plant that wanted to survive, will sprout through the cracks of the roof of houses or sidewalks. Even an injured bird, would still try its efforts to jump up the curb. There was so much evidence of the strong will to survive from nature itself. Hence, how are we humans, who are supposed to be of higher intelligence than nature, be happily confining ourselves to what we were told we can do or cannot do?
There are a lot of trepidation within us when we thought of embarking on a whole new career. Even when we are gifted with the skills we have within us, sometimes, we still doubt ourselves. This was written from a mother to a child to encourage her to step out to live her dreams. It will not be perfect but at least, she has the courage to embark on it. Because she has the support of her parents and if she don’t try, she will never know.
This was written to honor every Young Presidents Organization’s Certified Forum Facilitators and management staff who toiled and dedicated their all to an amazing retreat in Louisiana, New Orleans on Dec 2018. Underneath the fun and games, the immense revelation and learning through self-discovery, self-disclosure and self-empowerment rocked me so much so, I had to write the poem on my flight back home. I wanted to pay tribute to every hero and every connection at that awesome retreat!
This was written during my holiday with my daughter in Hue, Vietnam. From the simplicity of surroundings in the area to the friendliness of the people we interacted with, I thought about how much we set expectations out of our good intentions to each other, especially to our children. Because we feel responsible for their future, we may sometimes chart their career paths from our own perspectives. However, each one of us is different and it’s actually unreasonable to decide what should be the path of another.