Many of us claimed that we have no choice but to do what we have to do to preserve peace, to maintain a family, to keep a job we don’t really enjoy, to attend an event we dread or have a grand wedding banquet because our parents required us to do, etc. By doing all those, we subscribed to a victim mode. And we might end up with huge emotional, mental and financial debt. However, when we understand that it’s a conscious choice that we make, for now, because of something in the future that we want to attain. We will be fully aware of the consequences to the choices that we make and hold ourselves accountable, instead of staying in the victim mode.